Friday, June 15, 2007

Friends are the Gift......God Sends Our Way

~ FRIENDS ~

As we walk our path of life,
We meet people everyday.
Most are simply met by chance.
But, some are sent our way.

These become special friends
Whose bond we can't explain;
The ones who understand us
And share our joy and pain.

Their love contains no boundaries.
So, even we are apart.
Their presence enhances us
With a warmth felt in the heart.

This love becomes a passageway,
When even the miles disappear.
And so, these friends, God sends our way,
Remain forever near.

- Author Lisa Pelzer Vetter

Thursday, June 14, 2007

They Don't Meet but They Were Best Friends...Read Story...Good One

A Friend on the Line
By Jennings Michael Burch

Even before I finished dialing, I somehow
knew I'd made a mistake. The phone rang once,
twice - then someone picked it up.

"You got the wrong number!" a husky male voice
snapped before the line went dead. Mystified,
I dialed again.

"I said you got the wrong number!" came the voice.
Once more the phone clicked in my ear.

How could he possibly know I had a wrong number?
At that time, I worked for the New York City
Police Department. A cop is trained to be curious
- and concerned. So I dialed a third time.

"Hey, c'mon," the man said. "Is this you again?"
"Yeah, it's me," I answered. "I was wondering
how you knew I had the wrong number before
I even said anything."

"You figure it out!" The phone slammed down.
I sat there awhile, the receiver hanging
loosely in my fingers. I called the man back.

"Did you figure it out yet?" he asked.
"The only thing I can think of is...
nobody ever calls you."
"You got it!" The phone went dead for the
fourth time. Chuckling, I dialed the man back.
"What do you want now?" he asked.
"I thought I'd call...just to say hello."
"Hello? Why?"
"Well, if nobody ever calls you, I thought
maybe I should."
"Okay. Hello. Who is this?"
At last I had gotten through. Now he was
curious. I told him who I was
and asked who he was.

"My name's Adolf Meth. I'm 88 years old,
and I haven't had this many wrong numbers
in one day in 20 years!" We both laughed.

We talked for 10 minutes. Adolf had no family,
no friends. Everyone he had been close to had died.
Then we discovered we had something in common: he'd
worked for the New York City Police Department for
nearly 40 years. Telling me about his days there as
an elevator operator, he seemed interesting, even
friendly. I asked if I could call him again.

"Why would you wanta do that?" he asked, surprised.
"Well, maybe we could be phone friends. You know,
like pen pals." He hesitated. "I wouldn't mind...having
a friend again." His voice sounded a little tentative.

I called Adolf the following afternoon and several days
after that. Easy to talk with, he related his memories
of World Wars I and II, the Hindenburg disaster and other
historic events. He was fascinating. I gave him my home and
office numbers so he could call me. He did - almost every day.
I was not just being kind to a lonely old man. Talking with
Adolf was important to me, because I, too, had a big gap in
my life. Raised in orphanages and foster homes, I never had
a father. Gradually, Adolf took on a kind of fatherly importance
to me. I talked about my job and college courses, which I
attended at night.

Adolf warmed to the role of counselor. While discussing a
disagreement I'd had with a supervisor, I told my new friend,
"I think I ought to have it out with him."
"What's the rush?" Adolf cautioned. "Let things cool down.
When you get as old as I am, you find out that time takes care
of a lot. If things get worse, then you can talk to him."
There was a long silence. "You know," he said softly, "I'm
talking to you just the way I'd talk to a boy of my own. I always
wanted a family - and children. You're too young to know how that
feels." No, I wasn't. I'd always wanted a family - and a father.
But I didn't say anything, afraid I wouldn't be able to hold back
the hurt I'd felt for so long.

One evening Adolf mentioned his 89th birthday was coming up.
After buying a piece of fiberboard, I designed a 2' x 5'
greeting card with a cake and 89 candles on it. I asked all
the cops in my office and even the police commissioner to sign it.
I gathered nearly a hundred signatures. Adolf would get a kick
out of this, I knew.

We'd been talking on the phone for four months now, and I thought
this would be a good time to meet face to face. So I decided to
deliver the card by hand.

I didn't tell Adolf I was coming; I just drove to his address one morning
and parked the car up the street from his apartment house. A postman
was sorting mail in the hallway when I entered the building. He nodded
as I checked the mailboxes for Adolf's name. There it was.
Apartment 1H, some 20 feet from where I stood.

My heart pounded with excitement. Would we have the same
chemistry in person that we had on the phone? I felt the first stab of doubt.
Maybe he would reject me the way my father rejected me when he went
out of my life. I tapped on Adolf's door. When there was no answer, I knocked
harder. The postman looked up from his sorting. "No one's there," he said.
"Yeah," I said, feeling a little foolish. "If he answers his door the way he answers
his phone, this may take all day."

"You a relative or something?"
"No. Just a friend."
"I'm really sorry," he said quietly, "but Mr. Meth died day before
yesterday."

Died? Adolf? For a moment, I couldn't answer. I stood there in shock
and disbelief. Then, pulling myself together, I thanked the postman
and stepped into the late-morning sun. I walked toward the car,
misty-eyed.

Then, rounding a corner, I saw a church, and a line from the Old
Testament leaped to mind: A friend loveth at all times. And
especially in death, I realized. This brought a moment of recognition.
Often it takes some sudden and sad turn of events to awaken us to
the beauty of a special presence in our lives. Now, for the first time,
I sensed how very close Adolf and I had become.

It had been easy, and I knew this would make it even easier the
next time, with my next close friend.

Slowly, I felt a warmth surging through me. I heard Adolf's growly
voice shouting, "Wrong number!" Then I heard him asking why
I wanted to call again. "Because you mattered, Adolf," I said aloud
to no one. "Because I was your friend."

I placed the unopened birthday card on the back seat of my car and got
behind the wheel. Before starting the engine, I looked over my shoulder.
"Adolf," I whispered, "I didn't get the wrong number at all. I got you."

Wednesday, June 13, 2007

That's What Friends Do....

Jack* tossed the papers on my desk -- his eyebrows knit into a straight line as he glared at me.

"What's wrong?" I asked.

He jabbed a finger at the proposal. "Next time you want to change anything, ask me first," he said, turning on his heels and leaving me stewing in anger.

How dare he treat me like that, I thought. I had changed one long sentence, and corrected grammar -- something I thought I was paid to do.

It's not that I hadn't been warned. The other women, who had served in my place before me, called him names I couldn't repeat. One co-worker took me aside the first day. "He's personally responsible for two different secretaries leaving the firm," she whispered.

As the weeks went by, I grew to despise Jack. It was against everything I believed in -- turn the other cheek and love your enemies. But Jack quickly slapped a verbal insult on any cheek turned his way. I prayed about it, but to be honest, I wanted to put him in his place, not love him.

One day, another of his episodes left me in tears. I stormed into his office, prepared to lose my job if needed, but not before I let the man know how I felt. I opened the door and Jack glanced up.

"What?" he said abruptly.

Suddenly I knew what I had to do. After all, he deserved it.

I sat across from him. "Jack, the way you've been treating me is wrong. I've never had anyone speak to me that way. As a professional, it's wrong, and it's wrong for me to allow it to continue," I said. Jack snickered nervously and leaned back in his chair. I closed my eyes briefly. God help me, I prayed.

"I want to make you a promise. I will be a friend," I said. "I will treat you as you deserve to be treated, with respect and kindness. You deserve that," I said. "Everybody does." I slipped out of the chair and closed the door behind me.

Jack avoided me the rest of the week. Proposals, specs, and letters appeared on my desk while I was at lunch, and the corrected versions were not seen again. I brought cookies to the office one day and left a batch on Jack's desk. Another day I left a note. "Hope your day is going great," it read.

Over the next few weeks, Jack reappeared. He was reserved, but there were no other episodes. Co-workers cornered me in the break room.

"Guess you got to Jack," they said. "You must have told him off good." I shook my head.

"Jack and I are becoming friends," I said in faith. I refused to talk about him. Every time I saw Jack in the hall, I smiled at him. After all, that's what friends do.

One year after our "talk", I discovered I had breast cancer. I was 32, the mother of three beautiful young children, and scared. The cancer had metastasized to my lymph nodes and the statistics were not great for long-term survival. After surgery, I visited with friends and loved ones who tried to find the right words to say. No one knew what to say. Many said the wrong things. Others wept, and I tried to encourage them. I clung to hope.

One day, the door darkened in my small hospital room and Jack stood awkwardly on the threshold. I waved him in with a smile and he walked over to my bed and, without a word, placed a bundle beside me. Inside lay several bulbs.

"Tulips," he said.

I smiled, not understanding.

He cleared his throat. "If you plant them when you get home, they'll come up next spring." He shuffled his feet. "I just wanted you to know that I think you'll be there to see them when they come up."

Tears clouded my eyes and I reached out my hand. "Thank you," I whispered.

Jack grasped my hand and gruffly replied, "You're welcome. You can't see it now, but next spring you'll see the colors I picked out for you." He turned and left without a word.

I have seen those red and white striped tulips push through the soil every spring for over ten years now. In fact, this past September the doctor declared me cured. I've seen my children graduate from high school and enter college. I've celebrated twenty-two years of marriage with my husband.

In a moment when I prayed for just the right word, a man with very few words said all the right things.

After all, that's what friends do.

- T. Suzanne Eller

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Poem - Why God Made Friends...!!!

God made the world with a heartful of love,
Then He looked down from Heaven above,
And saw that we all need a helping hand,
Someone to share with, who’ll understand.

He made special people to see us through
The glad times and the sad times, too;
A person on whom we can always depend,
Someone we can call a friend.

God made friends so we’ll carry a part
Of His perfect love in all our hearts

— Jill Wolf

Monday, June 11, 2007

What Is A Friend?

A friend is somebody
Who knows you and likes you
Exactly the way that you are.

Someone who's special
And so close in thought
That no distance can ever seem far.

A friend understands you
Without any words,
Stands by you
When nothing goes right.

And willingly talks
Over problems with you
Till they somehow
Just vanish from sight.

And whether you're neighbors
Or live miles apart,
A word from a friend gives a lift
To your heart and spirit.

That shows you once more
Why friendship is life's dearest gift!

- Author Unknown

Friday, June 08, 2007

Know Your Friend...

A Friend, who...

(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in "you"
(C)alls you just to say "HI"
(D)oesn't give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you
(I)nvites you over
(J)ust "be" with you
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges
(O)ffer support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains thing you don't understand
(Y)ells when you won't listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality

by: Author Unknown, Source Unknown

Thursday, June 07, 2007

True Friendship Poem

True friendship isn't seen with the eyes, it is felt with the heart.
When there is trust, understanding, loyalty, and sharing.
True friendship is a rare feeling, but when it is found
It has profound impact on our well-being, strength, and character.
True friendship does not need elaborate gifts
Or spectacular events in order to be valuable or valued.
To ensure long-lasting quality and satisfaction,
True friendship only needs a few key ingredients:
Undying loyalty, unmatched understanding, unsurpassed trust,
Deep and soulful secrets, and endless sharing.
These ingredients, mixed with personality and a sense of humor,
Can make a friendship last a lifetime!
This is just a thank you, my friend, for all the wonderful and colorful
Special ingredients You've brought to my life!

- Author Unknown

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

Know Your Real Friend.

A simple friend, when visiting, acts like a guest.
A real friend opens your refrigerator and helps himself.

A simple friend has never seen you cry.
A real friend has shoulders soggy from your tears..

A simple friend doesn't know your parents' first names.
A real friend has their phone numbers in his address book.

A simple friend brings a bottle of wine to your party.
A real friend comes early to help you cook and stays late to help you clean.

A simple friend hates it when you call after they've gone to bed.
A real friend asks you why you took so long to call.

A simple friend seeks to talk with you about your problems.
A real friend seeks to help you with your problems.

A simple friend wonders about your romantic history.
A real friend could blackmail you with it.

A simple friend thinks the friendship is over when you have an argument.
A real friend calls you after you had a fight.

A simple friend expects you to always be there for them.
A real friend expects to always be there for you!

-- Author Unknown

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

What Is Friendship...???

Friendship Is . . .

. . . is you.
. . . is love.
. . . is shared.
. . . is forgiving.
. . . is understanding.
. . . is shared secrets.
. . . heals many hurts.
. . . is not judgmental.
. . . is shared laughter.
. . . is slow and steady.
. . . can be angry at times.
. . . is dependable and true.
. . . is more precious than silver or gold.
. . . is meant to be savored like fine wine.
. . . is not perfect, much like we are not perfect.
. . . does not hold grudges or demand perfection.
. . . makes all the wrong things in life, right somehow.
. . . is meant to be gulped like lemonade on a hot summer day.
. . . is always there, through times of trial, happy times and hard times.
. . . just happens, but once discovered, needs to be tended like a beautiful garden.
. . . is a road to be traveled slowly, remembering the sights and sounds.
. . . is strength when you are too weak to notice its there.
. . . is a cherished moment of mutual understanding.
. . . reaches into your heart and grabs a firm hold.
. . . is a refreshing rain on a hot day.
. . . is sunshine through the clouds.
. . . cannot be forced or induced.
. . . is relaxed and comfortable.
. . . is a shoulder to lean on.
. . . is an ear to whine to.
. . . gets better with age.
. . . is shared tears.
. . . is shared pain.
. . . is shared joy.
. . . is shared.
. . . is love.
. . . is you.

Friends Poem by Veronica Ann Cech

Monday, June 04, 2007

Good Friend Quotes - Value Your Friendship...!!!

A good friend can tell you what is the matter with you in a minute.
He may not seem such a good friend after telling.

-- Arthur Brisbane, "The Book of Today"

Misfortune shows those who are not really friends.

-- Aristotle (384 BC - 322 BC), Eudemian Ethics

He who has a thousand friends has not a friend to spare,
And he who has one enemy will meet him everywhere.

--- Ali ibn-Abi-Talib (602 AD - 661 AD), A Hundred Sayings

Friday, May 18, 2007

Real Friendship Statements !

"The best mirror is an old friend."

~ George Herbert.


"With every friend I love who has been taken into the brown bosom of the earth a part of me has been buried there; but their contribution to my being of happiness, strength and understanding remains to sustain me in an altered world."

~ Helen Keller.


"What is a friend? A single soul in two bodies."

~ Aristotle.


"The friendship that can cease has never been real."

~ Saint Jerome.


"I count myselt in nothing else so happyAs in a soul rememb'ring my good friends."

~ William Shakespeare.

Thursday, May 17, 2007

Popular Friendship Sentences !

"Think where man's glory most begins and ends,And say my glory was I had such friends."

~ William Yeats.


"Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide it with."

~ Mark Twain.


"Thus nature has no love for solitude, and always leans, as it were, on some support; and the sweetest support is found in the most intimate friendship."

~ Cicero.


"Advice is like snow; the softer it falls, the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind."

~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge.

Tuesday, May 15, 2007

Beautiful Friendship Poem !

"Friendship is love with wings."

~ Unknown.


"Never injure a friend, even in jest."

~ Cicero.


"When true friends meet in adverse hour;'Tis like a sunbeam through a shower.A watery way an instant seen,The darkly closing clouds between."

~ Sir Walter Scott.


"... no man is uselesswhile he has a friend."

~ Robert Louis Stevenson.


"A true friend stabs you in the front."

~ Oscar Wilde.

Saturday, May 12, 2007

Good Friendship Feelings !

"If you judge people, you have no time to love them."
~ Mother Teresa.
"I will speak ill of no man, and speak all the good I know of everybody."
~ Benjamin Franklin
"Misfortune shows those who are not really friends."
~ Aristotle.
"The bird a nest, the spider a web, man friendship."
~ William Blake.
"Friendship is love without his wings"
~ Lord Byron.

Friday, May 11, 2007

Important Friendship Quotes !

"Anybody can sympathise with the sufferings of a friend, but it requires a very fine nature to sympathise with a friend's success."
~ Oscar Wilde.



"Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried, Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel; But do not dull thy palm with entertainment Of each new-hatch'd, unfledg'd comrade."
~ William Shakespeare.



"Friendship with oneself is all-important because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world."

~ Eleanor Roosevelt.

Tuesday, May 08, 2007

Adorable Friendship Statements !

"One loyal friend is worth ten thousand relatives."
~ Euripides, Greek playwrite.

"My friends are my estate."
~ Emily Dickinson.

"Be slow to fall into friendship; but when thou art in, continue firm and constant."
~ Socrates, Greek Philosopher.

"Friendship is the only cement that will ever hold the world together"
~ Woodrow Wilson.

Monday, May 07, 2007

True Friendsip Messages !

"These are called the pious frauds of friendship."
~ Henry Fielding (1707 - 1754) British novelist.

"Sir, I look upon every day to be lost, in which I do not make a new acquantaince."
~ Samuel Johnston, (as above).
"To like and dislike the same things, that is indeed true friendship."
~ Sallust (86 - 334 BC) Roman historian.

Saturday, May 05, 2007

Beautiful Friendship Thoughts !

"I can never think of promoting my convenience at the expense of a friend's interest and inclination."
~ George Washington, (as above)

"Always, Sir, set a high value on spontaneous kindness. he whose inclination prompts him to cultivate your friendship of his own accord, will love you more than one whom you have been at pains to attach to you."

~ Samuel Johnston (1709 - 1784) British lexicographer.


"It is not so much our friends' help that helps us as the confident knowledge that they will help us."

~ Epicurus (341 - 270 BC) Greek philosopher.

Friday, May 04, 2007

Thoughtful Friendship Advices !

"If it is abuse - why one is always sure to hear of it from one damned good-natured friend or other!"

~ Richard Brinsley Sheridan (1751 - 1816) British dramatist.


"Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for 'tis better to be alone than in bad company."

~ George Washington (1732 - 1799) US Statesman.


"True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation."

~ George Washington, (as above).

Wednesday, May 02, 2007

Friendship Is A Real Jewel !

"If a man does not make new acquaintance as he advances through life, he will soon find himself left alone. A man, Sir, should keep his friendship in constant repair."

~ Samuel Johnson (1709 - 1784) British lexiographer.



"True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in their worth and choice."

~ Samuel Johnston, (as above)


"It is more shameful to distrust one's friends than to be deceived by them."


~ Duc de la Rochefoucauld (1613 - 1680) French writer.